I met with a client last week,

and with her permission, I am sharing her story:

She has been working at a law firm for the last seven years and her ambition has always been to become a partner. The environment she works in consists of over 70% male versus 30% female and according to her she has to work twice as hard to prove that she is as good or better than a male partner.

She was so determined to become one of the few female partners of the firm that she said “I had to put aside the soft feminine side of my personality, and show forcefulness, sometimes be seen as being ruthless in making decisions. Think like a man!”

This decision of denying who she really is, what she really stands for took a toll on her, with the result that before she was even considered as

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Our perception

I recently did a presentation of the UFIND workshop to a corporate client and I used their whiteboard to display a few key notes pertinent to the workshop to facilitate my presentation.
Straight after the presentation, I was asked by a personal assistant if I wanted to erase the notes off the whiteboard. Her comment was:
“In case anyone else comes and copies your notes and your contents- we had complaints
before!”
This comment made me realise how much we tend to perceive our lives as being a ‘dog eat dog’ world.
From childhood, we are programmed to believe that resources are scarce, with comments
such as: “there is only limited space for top universities and so many applications!
Competition is going to be very tough”
It is therefore not surprising that we grow up believing that when we take, we are reducing
our competitor’s resources and vice

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After my last post on the Principle of Abundance, I felt it made sense to follow with the Principle of Competition. How often do we feel a loss of our self-worth when we lose? Many of us would answer “far too often!” We become disempowered by competition when we attach self-worth to it.

How often do we deliberately keep ‘valuable information’ to ourselves for fear that the competition will beat us at our own game? Sounds familiar?

“In reality fear of your competitors will only shift your focus and reduce your self-confidence”

Competition is about personal success. How you win is by achieving something you have never achieved before. True competition is with yourself, and when you beat others, it is feedback for you to know that you are reaching new levels of achievement. Competition may be within the workplace, a sport field, anywhere! Regardless of the arena, empowerment comes

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The principle of Causality is about understanding that absolutely everything that happens has a root cause. And that the cause is an effect of another cause, which continues down in a chain effect, until we uncover the primary cause. Too often we are too quick to jump to a conclusion and miss the REAL CAUSE of a problem.

To help us determine the root cause of a context, we must always ask ourselves, “What must we believe for us to think, feel and act that way?” Once we start to confront those beliefs, we can determine whether they raise our self-worth or cut it down.

The Instant Gratification Syndrome

With the arrival of social media and Google platform we now live in a world where we have access to answers and information at our fingertips. Because we are now programmed to expect answers to our questions immediately (a click away),

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The Empowerment Principle of Free Will means we are free to experience our life as we see appropriate or right for us. It is about knowing that we will always have the freedom to make our own choices, without judgement of how others are choosing to live by theirs.

“Your empowerment exists when you decide how you will react, what you will tolerate, which goals you reach for and which obstacles you are going to allow to prevent you from reaching them.”

Free Will and the Fear of Being Judged

And yet too often, we compromise our Free Will and fear to speak our own truth. One of the main reasons is the “fear of being judged”, as we seek validation of our self-worth through the eyes of others. It usually begins in our teenage years, but sometimes in younger children, where we start associating our self-worth with the positive

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